I felt really stupid when he told me that Matilda and her boyfriend had come to his place for two days
during the week and that he personally referred Matilda to Lola’s shop to make her hair since he had
followed me there times without number. He narrated that they came to Lagos to see her boyfriend’s
family and that Matilda only spent one night at his place. He said he gave her his second phone to use
for a while because her phone battery died and she was expecting important calls from her to be in-
laws.
He had the perfect excuse yet again, maybe I didn’t have anything to worry about with Matilda but I still
had to find out about the boys and Lade.
Weeks passed and I still had no clue of what was happening in our relationship. I started drawing back,
started getting paranoid, I just wanted him to tell me himself about his wife and kids but he didn’t tell
me nothing.
My birthday was in a few days and even with everything going on I really wanted to celebrate it. A
hardworking woman deserves to be happy (husband or no husband). Who even says a woman has to be
married before she is considered complete?
‘SOCIETY!!!’ my sub-conscious screamed at me.
My birthday was on Sunday, so on Friday evening I went to the mall with Lola to get new hair extensions
and other things and somehow we bumped into Elo. He had a full cart of things he had bought and I was
a little upset he didn’t tell me he was coming to the mall. I called him an hour before I left home and he
didn’t mention going to the mall after work. He hugged me and after he bought us ice-cream at Cold
stone he left saying he had other things to do.
Lola tried to calm me down; my mind was just throwing different thoughts at me. I wanted to know
what his every move and though it’s not good to do that in a relationship I felt he owed me that. After
all he was the one hiding something.
On Saturday afternoon, I was at Lola’s salon getting my hair and nails done when a package was
delivered to me.it was from Elo. I started to open it and I saw an invitation to my own birthday party at
his house on Sunday evening from 4pm. Lola started laughing because apparently she had already
gotten hers earlier on. Other items in the bag were a wrist-watch and a perfume bottle and a small card
from Elo it read; ‘Just because you mean the world to me…’
I was blushing amidst the ‘awwws’ from Lola and the other ladies in the salon. I called Elo and he asked
me if I loved the gifts I got and I replied in the affirmative. He promised to pick me to church the next
day.
Sunday service was absolutely wonderful; everyone in my church department had gifts for me. From
ear-rings to dress shirts to make-up sets. I felt so loved , Elo watched me from afar as the members of
my department sang me a birthday song. He was smiling like a Cheshire cat like he was the one being
celebrated then my mind started to wander as to what he had planned for my birthday party later
tonight….
Friday, 14 October 2016
Friday, 16 September 2016
TALES OF THE SIDE CHIC LIFE-7
I was just two blocks away from Lola’s Salon when a delivery truck broke down in front of me, I was so upset. I called Lade and asked her to find a way to keep the lady there; I wanted to know exactly who she was.
Thankfully, I got there just as she was about to step out. She was the first to admire my Ankara peplum top as I made my way in. I appreciated her and gave her my card. She smiled and promised to check me at the store before she left.
Lola explained that she saw Elo’s picture on her phone as the wallpaper. I stayed quiet trying to process the information. I called Elo and asked him if we could meet up later in the evening I was determined to end it this time. I was tired of the lies and his pretense. He told me he won’t be available that evening.
I went home feeling sick in my stomach; I started thinking of what to tell Elo when I finally get to see him. My mind was made up, I would rather stay single than be walked over.
‘But you adore this guy’ my subconscious told me.
That doesn’t mean I should settle. I thought in response to my subconscious.
He called me severally that night but I refused to pick up, he left messages on whatsapp and bbm but I replied none. The silent treatment, yea that was my game plan.
On Saturday morning, I was getting dressed to go for a client’s wedding when Elo’s car drove into my compound. He looked like he just rolled out of bed but he still looked as handsome as ever. Tunmise was there so I tried to act normal, he got the drift so he played along and playfully pulled me into the kitchen.
‘Why have you been avoiding me, Awele?’ he asked looking at me like I held the keys to his heart.
‘I’m not ready to have this conversation Elo, I’m on my way to a customer’s wedding’
‘You have to tell me something at least before you leave, I’m not letting you go until you do so’ he chided.
I laughed. ‘You have no right to keep me here against my wish, I’m leaving and that’s it. If you want to wait till I return, be my guest.’ I retorted
He was amazed at my statement but being the gentleman he is, he pecked my forehead and said ‘I’ll just hang around here till you get back then.’
Gosh! How can he be so sweet and so annoying at the same time? I went back to my room and Tunmise finished my make-up. She was asking me what was wrong but I assured her everything was fine.
I purposely stayed longer than I would at the wedding reception; I made sure to take cute pictures and uploaded them on Instagram. Elo liked and commented on each and every one of my pictures. It made me blush but I was still mad at him.
I got home at about 4:37pm and Elo was seated on the couch, so relaxed. Cup of juice on the centre table, DSTV remote and tv remote in both hands and an empty plate showing that he had even helped himself to some food from the fridge.
How do you break up with him now? My subconscious asked me.
To be honest, it looked so good to see him so relaxed in my apartment. He was so engrossed in the repeat football match between Chelsea and West Ham he was watching that he didn’t hear when I drove into the compound. He was a bit startled when he heard footsteps as the heels of my shoe kissed the tiles of the floor.
‘Hey there’, he called out.
‘Hi, I didn’t expect to still meet you here’ I uttered blithely
‘C’mon Awele, what’s this drama about?’, he stood up and started walking towards me. I quickly got into my room and locked the door behind me.
‘Okay, maybe it’s time for me to go then. I waited all day for you and now you won’t even speak to me.’, he whined.
‘Give me ten minutes, I’ll be out now’, I teased.
‘Fine, I’ll wait’ he replied. ‘I just hope this is all worth it’.
…………………………………………………………………………………
After about 20 minutes, I came out of the room. I had showered and changed to shorts and an over-size boyfriend jacket that covered my legs a bit. Elo was in the kitchen then trying to clean up and maybe planning on leaving since I refused to come out after 20 minutes.
He looked back as I stepped into the kitchen.
‘Ready to talk now?’ he asked cleaning his hands with a napkin.
I narrated the whole story of how he had been making me doubt him and that I really didn’t believe the whole Matilda being his step-sister gist. I told him about the lady I met at Lola’s place and that she had his picture as her wall-paper.
He laughed so hard and I frowned wondering what was so amusing about what I had just said. Then he started to explain……
TO BE CONTINUED
A/N: What explanation do you think Elo has this time? Kindly share and drop your comments.
Thankfully, I got there just as she was about to step out. She was the first to admire my Ankara peplum top as I made my way in. I appreciated her and gave her my card. She smiled and promised to check me at the store before she left.
Lola explained that she saw Elo’s picture on her phone as the wallpaper. I stayed quiet trying to process the information. I called Elo and asked him if we could meet up later in the evening I was determined to end it this time. I was tired of the lies and his pretense. He told me he won’t be available that evening.
I went home feeling sick in my stomach; I started thinking of what to tell Elo when I finally get to see him. My mind was made up, I would rather stay single than be walked over.
‘But you adore this guy’ my subconscious told me.
That doesn’t mean I should settle. I thought in response to my subconscious.
He called me severally that night but I refused to pick up, he left messages on whatsapp and bbm but I replied none. The silent treatment, yea that was my game plan.
On Saturday morning, I was getting dressed to go for a client’s wedding when Elo’s car drove into my compound. He looked like he just rolled out of bed but he still looked as handsome as ever. Tunmise was there so I tried to act normal, he got the drift so he played along and playfully pulled me into the kitchen.
‘Why have you been avoiding me, Awele?’ he asked looking at me like I held the keys to his heart.
‘I’m not ready to have this conversation Elo, I’m on my way to a customer’s wedding’
‘You have to tell me something at least before you leave, I’m not letting you go until you do so’ he chided.
I laughed. ‘You have no right to keep me here against my wish, I’m leaving and that’s it. If you want to wait till I return, be my guest.’ I retorted
He was amazed at my statement but being the gentleman he is, he pecked my forehead and said ‘I’ll just hang around here till you get back then.’
Gosh! How can he be so sweet and so annoying at the same time? I went back to my room and Tunmise finished my make-up. She was asking me what was wrong but I assured her everything was fine.
I purposely stayed longer than I would at the wedding reception; I made sure to take cute pictures and uploaded them on Instagram. Elo liked and commented on each and every one of my pictures. It made me blush but I was still mad at him.
I got home at about 4:37pm and Elo was seated on the couch, so relaxed. Cup of juice on the centre table, DSTV remote and tv remote in both hands and an empty plate showing that he had even helped himself to some food from the fridge.
How do you break up with him now? My subconscious asked me.
To be honest, it looked so good to see him so relaxed in my apartment. He was so engrossed in the repeat football match between Chelsea and West Ham he was watching that he didn’t hear when I drove into the compound. He was a bit startled when he heard footsteps as the heels of my shoe kissed the tiles of the floor.
‘Hey there’, he called out.
‘Hi, I didn’t expect to still meet you here’ I uttered blithely
‘C’mon Awele, what’s this drama about?’, he stood up and started walking towards me. I quickly got into my room and locked the door behind me.
‘Okay, maybe it’s time for me to go then. I waited all day for you and now you won’t even speak to me.’, he whined.
‘Give me ten minutes, I’ll be out now’, I teased.
‘Fine, I’ll wait’ he replied. ‘I just hope this is all worth it’.
…………………………………………………………………………………
After about 20 minutes, I came out of the room. I had showered and changed to shorts and an over-size boyfriend jacket that covered my legs a bit. Elo was in the kitchen then trying to clean up and maybe planning on leaving since I refused to come out after 20 minutes.
He looked back as I stepped into the kitchen.
‘Ready to talk now?’ he asked cleaning his hands with a napkin.
I narrated the whole story of how he had been making me doubt him and that I really didn’t believe the whole Matilda being his step-sister gist. I told him about the lady I met at Lola’s place and that she had his picture as her wall-paper.
He laughed so hard and I frowned wondering what was so amusing about what I had just said. Then he started to explain……
TO BE CONTINUED
A/N: What explanation do you think Elo has this time? Kindly share and drop your comments.
Thursday, 18 August 2016
WHO IS YOUR NEXT OF KIN?
Lately I have had to fill a lot of forms and whenever you are doing all this stuff, the issue of next of kin always comes up so I thought to write something about it.
It’s one issue I know can cause problems in a family, if not handled right. I mean we all know that a next of kin should be the closest living relative to a person i.e. spouse or child because they often inherit the personal property of the person in a case of death but many of us don’t really take it seriously. Most of us just fill in anything that comes to mind at the point of documentation or account opening, forgetting that whatever we fill is what would be used in an event of death or emergency.
Nobody knows the time when death will come and although we can only pray against untimely death it’s very essential to put things in order. I don’t even want to go into the issue of having a will because most of us Nigerians have the mindset that only people that have money yanfu yanfu need that.
Back to the next of kin issue, some people argue that it depends on what the documentation is for and the circumstances. Like some people use their spouse for some and then their children for some. I just think it’s essential to protect the interest of your immediate family if you are married. I also think it’s important to update your next of kin as your status changes. For example, when you were single you might have used your mum or siblings as your next of kin but when you get married I think it’s important to change all that.
Although people who have trust issues with their spouses might not fully agree with this, I just feel you should have the interest of those who matter and make sure they are covered.
On several occasions I have seen men who would rather have their brothers as their next of kin instead of their wife or child. Chai! After the woman would have suffered with the man for years, he will now put his brother as next of kin. What would you do if that happened to you? Odikwa very risky! The man go hear am!
For some they even go as far as doing a will and leaving it all to their siblings. This could lead to a huge family crisis when such people die.
I think it’s important for people to know the implication of the choices they make.
So before you complete that account opening or fill out that very important document be sure that you are putting in the right information in the next of kin section….You don’t want your wife or children fighting you over your choice of next of kin if for any reason they find out. It could lead to a mini third world war in your home oooh…so to avoidgbege problems please be guided.
A/N: What would you do if you find out your spouse chose his sibling as next of kin instead of you or your children?
Please share your views by dropping your comments.
Thanks for reading and please share this post it could help someone out there make better choices.
You can also subscribe to the blog to get notifications of new posts and if you have educative articles or interesting short stories you would like us to post on this blog you can email me: tolu@lqueenwrites.com
Till i write you again,
xoxo
It’s one issue I know can cause problems in a family, if not handled right. I mean we all know that a next of kin should be the closest living relative to a person i.e. spouse or child because they often inherit the personal property of the person in a case of death but many of us don’t really take it seriously. Most of us just fill in anything that comes to mind at the point of documentation or account opening, forgetting that whatever we fill is what would be used in an event of death or emergency.
Nobody knows the time when death will come and although we can only pray against untimely death it’s very essential to put things in order. I don’t even want to go into the issue of having a will because most of us Nigerians have the mindset that only people that have money yanfu yanfu need that.
Back to the next of kin issue, some people argue that it depends on what the documentation is for and the circumstances. Like some people use their spouse for some and then their children for some. I just think it’s essential to protect the interest of your immediate family if you are married. I also think it’s important to update your next of kin as your status changes. For example, when you were single you might have used your mum or siblings as your next of kin but when you get married I think it’s important to change all that.
Although people who have trust issues with their spouses might not fully agree with this, I just feel you should have the interest of those who matter and make sure they are covered.
On several occasions I have seen men who would rather have their brothers as their next of kin instead of their wife or child. Chai! After the woman would have suffered with the man for years, he will now put his brother as next of kin. What would you do if that happened to you? Odikwa very risky! The man go hear am!
For some they even go as far as doing a will and leaving it all to their siblings. This could lead to a huge family crisis when such people die.
I think it’s important for people to know the implication of the choices they make.
So before you complete that account opening or fill out that very important document be sure that you are putting in the right information in the next of kin section….You don’t want your wife or children fighting you over your choice of next of kin if for any reason they find out. It could lead to a mini third world war in your home oooh…so to avoid
A/N: What would you do if you find out your spouse chose his sibling as next of kin instead of you or your children?
Please share your views by dropping your comments.
Thanks for reading and please share this post it could help someone out there make better choices.
You can also subscribe to the blog to get notifications of new posts and if you have educative articles or interesting short stories you would like us to post on this blog you can email me: tolu@lqueenwrites.com
Till i write you again,
xoxo
Friday, 12 August 2016
TALES OF THE SIDE CHIC LIFE-6
CHIVALROUS JACKASS
He got up and walked towards a lonely tree to receive his call. I just sat there on the sand watching him as he walked away his voice in a whisper as he spoke with her.
He is such a douche bag, how can he do this to me after I told him all I had been through before meeting him. Jackass, how did I fall in love with him anyway? I cursed under my breath clenching my fists with sand in them.
Just then he turned around and winked at me, and I gave him a fake smile. Wondering how he could be talking to some other girl over the phone telling her sweet nothings and using his charm on another at the same time.
He ended his call and picked me off the ground before I could even protest, he carried me all the way to the hut we were seated before. He noticed I was quiet again; he looked at me intensely trying to figure out the reason for the sudden switch to my previous mood.
‘Awele, a penny for your thoughts’, he said smiling mischievously.
‘There’s really nothing on my mind’. I lied. ‘You look like you saw a ghost’, he chuckled’ trying to ease the tension in the air. ‘You are the only ghost I can see here, are you even real?’ I countered jokingly but semi-serious.
‘What’s going on? Did I do something wrong?’ he asked with utmost sincerity
‘In a way’ I replied rolling my eyes.
‘Tell me’, he teased pulling my stool forward so that our knees brushed each other. Goose bumps appeared on that spot. I prayed solemnly that he shouldn’t see that.
‘We’ve been together for a while now and you still can’t take your calls around me’ I asked pouting and looking at my feet not sure I wanted to look at his face if he lied to me.
‘Is that what you think? He asked. ‘I’m sorry you see it that way’ he said placing a finger under my chin tilting it so that I could look at him
‘Okay so who is Matilda?’ I asked in a whisper
‘Oh is that what this is about? He laughed out loud almost falling off his stool. ‘C’mon, Awele I find it gratifying to know you would get like this over me. He teased.
‘Answer the question Elo, I smirked not amused by his playful drama.
‘Matilda is my step-sister Awele, but we are very close. She ran into problems at work and I have been there for her all the while but since I left Port-harcourt nobody at home has been supportive.’ He rushed to explain.
‘I see’, I replied not fully convinced. I was a bit tempted to ask him about Lade and the kids but I didn’t want him knowing I was eavesdropping on the conversation with his friend the other day or that I had been snooping around checking his phones.
‘Don’t get yourself all worked up, honey. I’m with you because I want you for real. Let’s go get a drink now, c’mon’ he pulled me up and guided me out of the hut.
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2 weeks passed and I still hadn’t found out the real story behind Lade and the kids. Those children were a spitting image of Elo, I was determined to find out what exactly he was hiding from me but with every passing day our relationship blossomed. He had a way of making my doubts disappear whenever we were together.
Gist had started flying round church that we were getting married soon and it killed me to think that as much as I wanted that to be true, it was never going to happen if Elo was actually married.
My birthday was in 3 weeks and I wanted to celebrate it, my friends had started teasing me and saying stuff like Elo would propose. If only they knew, I couldn’t tell anyone not even Tunmise and Lola who are my best friends. I mean I wanted to be sure first.
I was at home one Wednesday afternoon which is my usual rest day, a little bored coz Elo was super busy on site hence no mid-day chats. I was flipping through TV channels when my phone rang. It was Lola my co-entrepreneur, friend and gist buddy.
‘Awele, what’s up? I need to see you like right now. I know you are free today meet me at my salon ASAP’ she said apprehensively.
‘Are you okay? Did anything happen? I asked with the phone pressed to my ear with my shoulder as I pulled my jeans up and put on flip flops ready to stroll over to Lola’s Salon two streets away from my house.
‘There’s a lady here with Elo’s picture as her wallpaper, I’m very sure I’m not mistaken. Hurry up she would leave soon’, she said in a whisper.
I planned to walk before but that piece of information made me rush like my butt was on fire into my bedroom to pick my car keys, I got into the car and sped off to Lola’s PLACE.
Maybe I am just one step away from finding Elo’s wife or lover.
Author’s Note; Hi Loves, hope you are still following Awele’s story.
Any ideas who the lady at the salon could be?
Thanks for reading, kindly share on your social media. I appreciate y'all.
He got up and walked towards a lonely tree to receive his call. I just sat there on the sand watching him as he walked away his voice in a whisper as he spoke with her.
He is such a douche bag, how can he do this to me after I told him all I had been through before meeting him. Jackass, how did I fall in love with him anyway? I cursed under my breath clenching my fists with sand in them.
Just then he turned around and winked at me, and I gave him a fake smile. Wondering how he could be talking to some other girl over the phone telling her sweet nothings and using his charm on another at the same time.
He ended his call and picked me off the ground before I could even protest, he carried me all the way to the hut we were seated before. He noticed I was quiet again; he looked at me intensely trying to figure out the reason for the sudden switch to my previous mood.
‘Awele, a penny for your thoughts’, he said smiling mischievously.
‘There’s really nothing on my mind’. I lied. ‘You look like you saw a ghost’, he chuckled’ trying to ease the tension in the air. ‘You are the only ghost I can see here, are you even real?’ I countered jokingly but semi-serious.
‘What’s going on? Did I do something wrong?’ he asked with utmost sincerity
‘In a way’ I replied rolling my eyes.
‘Tell me’, he teased pulling my stool forward so that our knees brushed each other. Goose bumps appeared on that spot. I prayed solemnly that he shouldn’t see that.
‘We’ve been together for a while now and you still can’t take your calls around me’ I asked pouting and looking at my feet not sure I wanted to look at his face if he lied to me.
‘Is that what you think? He asked. ‘I’m sorry you see it that way’ he said placing a finger under my chin tilting it so that I could look at him
‘Okay so who is Matilda?’ I asked in a whisper
‘Oh is that what this is about? He laughed out loud almost falling off his stool. ‘C’mon, Awele I find it gratifying to know you would get like this over me. He teased.
‘Answer the question Elo, I smirked not amused by his playful drama.
‘Matilda is my step-sister Awele, but we are very close. She ran into problems at work and I have been there for her all the while but since I left Port-harcourt nobody at home has been supportive.’ He rushed to explain.
‘I see’, I replied not fully convinced. I was a bit tempted to ask him about Lade and the kids but I didn’t want him knowing I was eavesdropping on the conversation with his friend the other day or that I had been snooping around checking his phones.
‘Don’t get yourself all worked up, honey. I’m with you because I want you for real. Let’s go get a drink now, c’mon’ he pulled me up and guided me out of the hut.
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2 weeks passed and I still hadn’t found out the real story behind Lade and the kids. Those children were a spitting image of Elo, I was determined to find out what exactly he was hiding from me but with every passing day our relationship blossomed. He had a way of making my doubts disappear whenever we were together.
Gist had started flying round church that we were getting married soon and it killed me to think that as much as I wanted that to be true, it was never going to happen if Elo was actually married.
My birthday was in 3 weeks and I wanted to celebrate it, my friends had started teasing me and saying stuff like Elo would propose. If only they knew, I couldn’t tell anyone not even Tunmise and Lola who are my best friends. I mean I wanted to be sure first.
I was at home one Wednesday afternoon which is my usual rest day, a little bored coz Elo was super busy on site hence no mid-day chats. I was flipping through TV channels when my phone rang. It was Lola my co-entrepreneur, friend and gist buddy.
‘Awele, what’s up? I need to see you like right now. I know you are free today meet me at my salon ASAP’ she said apprehensively.
‘Are you okay? Did anything happen? I asked with the phone pressed to my ear with my shoulder as I pulled my jeans up and put on flip flops ready to stroll over to Lola’s Salon two streets away from my house.
‘There’s a lady here with Elo’s picture as her wallpaper, I’m very sure I’m not mistaken. Hurry up she would leave soon’, she said in a whisper.
I planned to walk before but that piece of information made me rush like my butt was on fire into my bedroom to pick my car keys, I got into the car and sped off to Lola’s PLACE.
Maybe I am just one step away from finding Elo’s wife or lover.
Author’s Note; Hi Loves, hope you are still following Awele’s story.
Any ideas who the lady at the salon could be?
Thanks for reading, kindly share on your social media. I appreciate y'all.
Wednesday, 27 July 2016
TALES OF THE SIDE CHIC LIFE-5
DISCOVERY
Elo was having fun with his friends while I was busy prying into his business. I looked through his Samsung S5 and I only saw random messages from his boss and emails from the company.
It’s probably just an office phone, I hissed not pleased that I didn’t find anything implicating.
I started looking through his Iphone6 and then I started seeing messages from a certain Matilda. They appeared to text each other every day.
One of the chats I read;
Matilda: I miss you so much Elo
Elo: I know I really miss you too but there’s so much work here. There’s no escape for me
My heart literally froze as I read some of the other messages between Elo and Matilda.
Okay stop.I told myself.
Then I went to gallery and started flipping through pictures and after flipping through almost 2 dozens of pictures of the construction site I finally started seeing pictures of 2 very cute little boys who were a spitting image of Elo. You could see my heart beating through my top.
Oh my days! He is really married! But then again I recalled, his friend at the parking lot asked of Lade and the kids.
So who the hell is Matilda? I screamed in my head.
Lade, Matilda. Is it possible it was just the same person with different names?
I was preoccupied with my thoughts and didn’t even notice Elo was already behind me.
Jeez! He almost got me there.
Thankfully I had closed everything and was just holding his phone when he startled me.
‘Hi darling, you didn’t even come to say hi to my friends’, he said cupping my face with his hands.
‘I’m sorry but my mood is just kinda off today’, I replied trying to release his grip on my face.
‘C’mon love, we came here to have Fun’, he was looking into my eyes like he could see stars in them
‘I know but I’m just not in the mood’ I retorted.
He could see that I was a little perturbed, he was used to my off and on mood swings so he just tried to calm me down, he pulled me into an embrace but as I hugged him I could feel the rage rising in me. I gritted my teeth to avoid saying anything nasty to him.
It was hard to hate him when he was being so sweet, but why! Why did he choose to deceive me? I thought what we had was legit. I had told my friends about him, I even told my naughty younger brother too. What was I to do now?
‘Let’s take a walk’ he said pulling out of the embrace to look at my face again.
I like this guy so much, not because he is cute and rich but he was just a gentleman. He didn't pressure me to tell him what was bothering me like guys I had dated in the past.He never did! He was patient, he always allowed me take my time, to tell him when i felt ready and he would just listen quietly but there's no way I'm letting him in on what I just discovered. NO! Not now...not anytime soon. I thought to myself.
I still need to find out everything and drop a full bombshell on his head. I haven't even seen the picture of his wife yet eerm Lade or is it Matilda?
I didn’t say anything I just nodded as he held my hand leading us to the beach side.
He never left my hand as we walked, he kept quiet. He understood me, you know when someone really gets you. Oh!that feeling
After about 20 minutes of walking in silence, I decided to say something. The sound of lapping waves in the water and the playful dance of the wind with the trees had helped calm my nerves a bit.
‘It’s a really nice beach’, I said out of the blues
His eyes widened in surprise. He wasn’t expecting me to talk.
‘It really is’, he replied cheerfully.
And then he removed my hat and started running, I forgot everything I just discovered and chased after him. I successfully got my hat back and I was able to steal his sun-glasses and he started chasing me too. We ran after each other like two school children playing Police and thief.
I could see people staring at us but I didn’t care, I just wanted to have fun this moment with the man I have come to love.
Even though he is a married man at least he is mine for now, I thought in my head.
That’s so wrong, my gut was telling me but who cares? Just let me enjoy this moment I told my inner voice.
I was in between those thoughts when Elo finally caught up with me.
We fell into the sand, laughing like two children who didn’t have a care in the world.
It was these moments, this kind of moment! That made me love him. He knew how to bring out the fun part of me. To everyone Awele is this tough lady that takes no nonsense but no one understood that just like everyone else I just needed a good lover to bring out the fun side of me.
‘You see I’m the cure to all your problems honey, your ‘off’ mood has fast disappeared’, Elo beamed.
He started tickling me and I had always been very ticklish. I was laughing my eyes out,trying to stop him from the playful torture but then his phone rang.
Oh Crap! The ringing of the phone took my mind back to my discovery earlier.
He pulled out his phone from his pocket and I eagerly stretched my neck to see who it was.
I could literally hear the loud sound of my heart ripping into two.
It was her, it was MATILDA!
Author's Note; Hi Loves, hope you are still following Awele's story. Who do you think Matilda is? Have you ever secretly pried into your lover's phone? Be honest now, will you?
Kindly drop your comments and share.
Thanks a lot...muah!
STORY CONTINUES NEXT WEEK...I promise.
Elo was having fun with his friends while I was busy prying into his business. I looked through his Samsung S5 and I only saw random messages from his boss and emails from the company.
It’s probably just an office phone, I hissed not pleased that I didn’t find anything implicating.
I started looking through his Iphone6 and then I started seeing messages from a certain Matilda. They appeared to text each other every day.
One of the chats I read;
Matilda: I miss you so much Elo
Elo: I know I really miss you too but there’s so much work here. There’s no escape for me
My heart literally froze as I read some of the other messages between Elo and Matilda.
Okay stop.I told myself.
Then I went to gallery and started flipping through pictures and after flipping through almost 2 dozens of pictures of the construction site I finally started seeing pictures of 2 very cute little boys who were a spitting image of Elo. You could see my heart beating through my top.
Oh my days! He is really married! But then again I recalled, his friend at the parking lot asked of Lade and the kids.
So who the hell is Matilda? I screamed in my head.
Lade, Matilda. Is it possible it was just the same person with different names?
I was preoccupied with my thoughts and didn’t even notice Elo was already behind me.
Jeez! He almost got me there.
Thankfully I had closed everything and was just holding his phone when he startled me.
‘Hi darling, you didn’t even come to say hi to my friends’, he said cupping my face with his hands.
‘I’m sorry but my mood is just kinda off today’, I replied trying to release his grip on my face.
‘C’mon love, we came here to have Fun’, he was looking into my eyes like he could see stars in them
‘I know but I’m just not in the mood’ I retorted.
He could see that I was a little perturbed, he was used to my off and on mood swings so he just tried to calm me down, he pulled me into an embrace but as I hugged him I could feel the rage rising in me. I gritted my teeth to avoid saying anything nasty to him.
It was hard to hate him when he was being so sweet, but why! Why did he choose to deceive me? I thought what we had was legit. I had told my friends about him, I even told my naughty younger brother too. What was I to do now?
‘Let’s take a walk’ he said pulling out of the embrace to look at my face again.
I like this guy so much, not because he is cute and rich but he was just a gentleman. He didn't pressure me to tell him what was bothering me like guys I had dated in the past.He never did! He was patient, he always allowed me take my time, to tell him when i felt ready and he would just listen quietly but there's no way I'm letting him in on what I just discovered. NO! Not now...not anytime soon. I thought to myself.
I still need to find out everything and drop a full bombshell on his head. I haven't even seen the picture of his wife yet eerm Lade or is it Matilda?
I didn’t say anything I just nodded as he held my hand leading us to the beach side.
He never left my hand as we walked, he kept quiet. He understood me, you know when someone really gets you. Oh!that feeling
After about 20 minutes of walking in silence, I decided to say something. The sound of lapping waves in the water and the playful dance of the wind with the trees had helped calm my nerves a bit.
‘It’s a really nice beach’, I said out of the blues
His eyes widened in surprise. He wasn’t expecting me to talk.
‘It really is’, he replied cheerfully.
And then he removed my hat and started running, I forgot everything I just discovered and chased after him. I successfully got my hat back and I was able to steal his sun-glasses and he started chasing me too. We ran after each other like two school children playing Police and thief.
I could see people staring at us but I didn’t care, I just wanted to have fun this moment with the man I have come to love.
Even though he is a married man at least he is mine for now, I thought in my head.
That’s so wrong, my gut was telling me but who cares? Just let me enjoy this moment I told my inner voice.
I was in between those thoughts when Elo finally caught up with me.
We fell into the sand, laughing like two children who didn’t have a care in the world.
It was these moments, this kind of moment! That made me love him. He knew how to bring out the fun part of me. To everyone Awele is this tough lady that takes no nonsense but no one understood that just like everyone else I just needed a good lover to bring out the fun side of me.
‘You see I’m the cure to all your problems honey, your ‘off’ mood has fast disappeared’, Elo beamed.
He started tickling me and I had always been very ticklish. I was laughing my eyes out,trying to stop him from the playful torture but then his phone rang.
Oh Crap! The ringing of the phone took my mind back to my discovery earlier.
He pulled out his phone from his pocket and I eagerly stretched my neck to see who it was.
I could literally hear the loud sound of my heart ripping into two.
It was her, it was MATILDA!
Author's Note; Hi Loves, hope you are still following Awele's story. Who do you think Matilda is? Have you ever secretly pried into your lover's phone? Be honest now, will you?
Kindly drop your comments and share.
Thanks a lot...muah!
STORY CONTINUES NEXT WEEK...I promise.
Tuesday, 19 July 2016
TALES OF THE SIDE CHIC LIFE-4
The drive back was a very quiet one; I didn’t want Elo to know I heard his friend ask of Lade and his kids. I just told him I was having a headache so he didn’t bother engaging me in any side talk he just drove me back to my store.
I didn’t call Elo at all for the rest of the day. Different thoughts kept running through my head, so this guy is married ehn and he is here fronting like an eligible bachelor. Chai! See my life outside, me wey think say I don see husband. As my thoughts were flying about in my head, I lost track of time. By the time I glanced at the wall clock it was quarter to 8.
I usually leave the store by 6pm but today I was just in a very unclear mood. I picked my bag and stepped out of my office, just then my phone rang. It was Elo, I knew without even bringing out my phone.
What does he want now? I decided not to answer the call but then again I really wanted to. I mean, I thought we had something good going on; I was beginning to love this man and then this!
I entered my car and as I started the engine, my phone started ringing again. It was still Elo, I couldn’t help it this time. I answered the call.
‘Hi honey, I have been trying to reach you.’ He said in that very soft and husky voice that melts my heart.
‘I was in the middle of something then’ I lied not wanting him to suspect anything strange.
‘Oh ok, I get. What are you doing tomorrow? There’s this beach party my colleagues are organizing would you go with me?’
See this one oh…beach party ko, Beach party ni. I thought to myself
‘Honey are you there? He asked when he didn’t get a response for some seconds. Oh Lord! That voice though. I shake my thoughts off and regain my will to speak to him
‘Yeah I’m with you…of course I’ll go with you’ I said still trying not to sound upset.
‘Ok then I’ll pick you up at 2PM tomorrow’ he said happily.
‘Love you’, he said.
Hah yinmu, love indeed!
‘Same here’, I mumbled
He says the same stuff to his wife, how could he lie about being single when he has a wife and kids?
I shake off the thoughts flooding my mind, I’ll play the FOOL. I decided to play along.
The next morning I put on white shorts and a floral crop top I just made for myself. I took out my beach hat and I was putting on my flat sandals when I got a text from Elo. He pleaded that I come over to his place instead and we would leave from there. Oh crap! I had no plans of driving today. I walk out of my room and head to my car. I pulled over in front of his house and there he was flashing me his impeccably white set of teeth.
Abeg stop shining teeth jare, I hissed under my breath at the same time smiling back at him.
‘Hello Gorgeous, ready for a fun day?’ He asked. ‘Yeah’ I answered. Not sure of what to say.
We got to the beach at about 12 minutes past 3, he went to greet his friends but I decided to wait for him under one of the huts. Not in the mood for any introductions.
He left his phones with me, they were both unlocked. This is my chance, my detective duties start NOW!!!
Guys I am really sorry it took this long to continue the story...I cant even give an excuse coz if i start to talk.... Lol, just enjoy!
WATCH OUT FOR THE REST OF AWELE’S STORY
I didn’t call Elo at all for the rest of the day. Different thoughts kept running through my head, so this guy is married ehn and he is here fronting like an eligible bachelor. Chai! See my life outside, me wey think say I don see husband. As my thoughts were flying about in my head, I lost track of time. By the time I glanced at the wall clock it was quarter to 8.
I usually leave the store by 6pm but today I was just in a very unclear mood. I picked my bag and stepped out of my office, just then my phone rang. It was Elo, I knew without even bringing out my phone.
What does he want now? I decided not to answer the call but then again I really wanted to. I mean, I thought we had something good going on; I was beginning to love this man and then this!
I entered my car and as I started the engine, my phone started ringing again. It was still Elo, I couldn’t help it this time. I answered the call.
‘Hi honey, I have been trying to reach you.’ He said in that very soft and husky voice that melts my heart.
‘I was in the middle of something then’ I lied not wanting him to suspect anything strange.
‘Oh ok, I get. What are you doing tomorrow? There’s this beach party my colleagues are organizing would you go with me?’
See this one oh…beach party ko, Beach party ni. I thought to myself
‘Honey are you there? He asked when he didn’t get a response for some seconds. Oh Lord! That voice though. I shake my thoughts off and regain my will to speak to him
‘Yeah I’m with you…of course I’ll go with you’ I said still trying not to sound upset.
‘Ok then I’ll pick you up at 2PM tomorrow’ he said happily.
‘Love you’, he said.
Hah yinmu, love indeed!
‘Same here’, I mumbled
He says the same stuff to his wife, how could he lie about being single when he has a wife and kids?
I shake off the thoughts flooding my mind, I’ll play the FOOL. I decided to play along.
The next morning I put on white shorts and a floral crop top I just made for myself. I took out my beach hat and I was putting on my flat sandals when I got a text from Elo. He pleaded that I come over to his place instead and we would leave from there. Oh crap! I had no plans of driving today. I walk out of my room and head to my car. I pulled over in front of his house and there he was flashing me his impeccably white set of teeth.
Abeg stop shining teeth jare, I hissed under my breath at the same time smiling back at him.
‘Hello Gorgeous, ready for a fun day?’ He asked. ‘Yeah’ I answered. Not sure of what to say.
We got to the beach at about 12 minutes past 3, he went to greet his friends but I decided to wait for him under one of the huts. Not in the mood for any introductions.
He left his phones with me, they were both unlocked. This is my chance, my detective duties start NOW!!!
Guys I am really sorry it took this long to continue the story...I cant even give an excuse coz if i start to talk.... Lol, just enjoy!
WATCH OUT FOR THE REST OF AWELE’S STORY
Monday, 27 June 2016
SHE LEFT ME STRANDED!
Dasola has always been this way; right from our first date I had an inkling that she had Trust Issues. I brushed it aside because her beauty had totally blown me away. Don’t get me wrong Dasola is an amazing young lady, I mean very smart and honest. We met at a friend’s wedding in late September 2013 and since then we have pushed together to build a strong bond.
I am an entrepreneur while Dasola works in an audit firm, as an entrepreneur you should understand the kind of financial highs and lows I experience from time to time. Sometimes I have to travel out of the country to get materials and in the end I can’t even really boast of so much profit. This has not deterred me from working harder and tenaciously following my dreams. Sometimes when Dasola wants to hang out on weekends those are the days I really have to work, interior design clients most times ask me to come around on Saturdays because that is the most convenient time for them but it’s not been easy convincing Dasola.
On this very day, Dasola and I had agreed to attend her cousin’s 30th birthday party together and then on our way there a female client called, she said she had just gotten a new place and would be needing kitchen fittings ASAP. I pleaded with Dasola that we would should get to the client’s house before leaving for the party. She reluctantly agreed and we went. After checking the client’s house her neighbour asked to see pictures of my previous works, I hurriedly went to the car to get my work photo-book and on getting there Dasola was already fuming. Even from the sound of her breath, I could tell she was really mad at me.
I said a quick apology and ran back to give the man the photo-book, I told him to take his time and look through that I would be back to get it. I rushed back outside and for my eyes to see the car was gone. Dasola had left!
She left me stranded without my phones and wallet, I felt so embarrassed. I had to beg my female client to lend me her phone. I am not one of those who can have so many phone numbers by heart but for the sake of love, I learnt Dasola’s number by heart. I called her several times and to my surprise she didn’t take my calls knowing fully well that she left me stranded.
My female client, Bolade asked me to relax and wait for her to calm down and that she would be back. I was too tired to even start calling anyone else, I sat in Bolade’s sitting room waiting for my dear Dasola to pick me up but after about 2 hours of waiting I pleaded with Bolade to drop me off at the venue. I couldn’t bring myself to ask her to lend me money. She dropped me off at the venue and I could see Dasola from afar throwing fiery darts at me with her eyes.
I took it upon myself to apologize but Dasola had formed ideas in her head, she just handed me my phones, wallet and car key and walked away. I love her but I really don’t think I can be with someone who doesn’t support my vision and cannot bring herself to trust me.
It’s hard to end the relationship coz I can’t help but think of her. I love her but how can I make her understand?
How do you deal with people that always get paranoid? It can get really crazy sometimes, please share your views!
Do you really blame people that are like that? something or someone could have made them become that way? How do you help them see things differently?
I am an entrepreneur while Dasola works in an audit firm, as an entrepreneur you should understand the kind of financial highs and lows I experience from time to time. Sometimes I have to travel out of the country to get materials and in the end I can’t even really boast of so much profit. This has not deterred me from working harder and tenaciously following my dreams. Sometimes when Dasola wants to hang out on weekends those are the days I really have to work, interior design clients most times ask me to come around on Saturdays because that is the most convenient time for them but it’s not been easy convincing Dasola.
On this very day, Dasola and I had agreed to attend her cousin’s 30th birthday party together and then on our way there a female client called, she said she had just gotten a new place and would be needing kitchen fittings ASAP. I pleaded with Dasola that we would should get to the client’s house before leaving for the party. She reluctantly agreed and we went. After checking the client’s house her neighbour asked to see pictures of my previous works, I hurriedly went to the car to get my work photo-book and on getting there Dasola was already fuming. Even from the sound of her breath, I could tell she was really mad at me.
I said a quick apology and ran back to give the man the photo-book, I told him to take his time and look through that I would be back to get it. I rushed back outside and for my eyes to see the car was gone. Dasola had left!
She left me stranded without my phones and wallet, I felt so embarrassed. I had to beg my female client to lend me her phone. I am not one of those who can have so many phone numbers by heart but for the sake of love, I learnt Dasola’s number by heart. I called her several times and to my surprise she didn’t take my calls knowing fully well that she left me stranded.
My female client, Bolade asked me to relax and wait for her to calm down and that she would be back. I was too tired to even start calling anyone else, I sat in Bolade’s sitting room waiting for my dear Dasola to pick me up but after about 2 hours of waiting I pleaded with Bolade to drop me off at the venue. I couldn’t bring myself to ask her to lend me money. She dropped me off at the venue and I could see Dasola from afar throwing fiery darts at me with her eyes.
I took it upon myself to apologize but Dasola had formed ideas in her head, she just handed me my phones, wallet and car key and walked away. I love her but I really don’t think I can be with someone who doesn’t support my vision and cannot bring herself to trust me.
It’s hard to end the relationship coz I can’t help but think of her. I love her but how can I make her understand?
How do you deal with people that always get paranoid? It can get really crazy sometimes, please share your views!
Do you really blame people that are like that? something or someone could have made them become that way? How do you help them see things differently?
Thursday, 16 June 2016
Kobalization
It's hard to be a nice person these days and I mean it. All the harmless things one could do to help others have suddenly become potential sources of kobalization. Let me paint clear pictures. Before now, you could enter a bus and help someone carry their luggage if it is too heavy for them and it won't mean a thing but now you have to think twice coz you can never tell what they have in the so called luggage. Before now, you can be driving by the road and help out someone who is trekking without fear of being robbed or killed but you better not try that these days. Back then, you can help an old man or woman with their load without fear of being used for rituals but today you better just keep walking and let them jejely carry their own load.
Before now, you can be travelling out of the country and help everyone on your street send something to their loved ones abroad but you dare not try that now, the way NDLEA will bring out cocaine from elubo you will fear your neighbours and their packaging skills.
I was once fond of helping people carry their children when I board a bus, you know that scenario when a mother pays for one seat and brings in 2 toddlers and a baby at her back. I'll just quickly grab one to ease off stress from the mother but you know since I heard the story of how someone helped carry a baby in the bus and the baby died in his hands i became afraid. The baby had obviously been sick but the man thought it was the heat that was making the baby uncomfortable so he helped carry the baby but unfortunately the baby died. That's one major akoba situation.
Before now a man could carry a female toddler without fear but with the cases of child molestation these days you have to think twice before your harmless gesture is misunderstood.
I heard the story of a man who was driving within his estate and some people asked for directions to a place since it was not too much of a distance he offered to give them a ride being a good samaritan but that was his undoing they collected his car, his phones, his watch and all the money he had on him and dumped him beside a bush. Luckily his car had a tracking device and the police was able to get it ba
ck. Tell me how that kind of person would be willing to give anyone a ride again?
I normally feel bad when I see people in need but I can't help because I'm avoiding kobalization, have you had any of such experiences? Is it still safe to be a good samaritan?
Akoba Adaba Oloun ma je ka ri ooo...
Please share your thoughts and experiences
Before now, you can be travelling out of the country and help everyone on your street send something to their loved ones abroad but you dare not try that now, the way NDLEA will bring out cocaine from elubo you will fear your neighbours and their packaging skills.
I was once fond of helping people carry their children when I board a bus, you know that scenario when a mother pays for one seat and brings in 2 toddlers and a baby at her back. I'll just quickly grab one to ease off stress from the mother but you know since I heard the story of how someone helped carry a baby in the bus and the baby died in his hands i became afraid. The baby had obviously been sick but the man thought it was the heat that was making the baby uncomfortable so he helped carry the baby but unfortunately the baby died. That's one major akoba situation.
Before now a man could carry a female toddler without fear but with the cases of child molestation these days you have to think twice before your harmless gesture is misunderstood.
I heard the story of a man who was driving within his estate and some people asked for directions to a place since it was not too much of a distance he offered to give them a ride being a good samaritan but that was his undoing they collected his car, his phones, his watch and all the money he had on him and dumped him beside a bush. Luckily his car had a tracking device and the police was able to get it ba
ck. Tell me how that kind of person would be willing to give anyone a ride again?
I normally feel bad when I see people in need but I can't help because I'm avoiding kobalization, have you had any of such experiences? Is it still safe to be a good samaritan?
Akoba Adaba Oloun ma je ka ri ooo...
Please share your thoughts and experiences
Monday, 30 May 2016
Let's all be Forming
Many of us are guilty of this one. You would see someone from your hood back in the days or an old primary school mate and you'll act like you don't recognise the face. Haba! What's with the attitude(shakara) anyway?
For quite a while, I have been seeing this guy in the area he would drive by and act like he doesn't know who I was, many times I'll try to get eye contact and say hello but he'll carry his nose up like he doesn't know me. Haaaa...issokay.
Na so one day na, he came to use the ATM in front of my office and his card got stuck, apparently he didn't have a dime on him and it was a Friday evening after banking hours. I came outside to see a customer of mine and bam! there he was pacing up and down. He was talking to the security men trying to inquire how he could get his card back, when they saw me step out they asked him to see me. Lo and behold, my guy humble by force. He started approaching me with that shameful grin on his face and me sef I acted like I didn't see him.Yelz of coz.
I turned to face the customer who was waiting to see me first and I made him wait for about 7-10 minutes before asking him what he wanted.
He started with the fake accent " hi, eerm actually my card got stuck in the atm, i was asked to see you. I laughed, " wo bi, don't you know this face?" I asked.
"Actually I do but I can't place it" he said with a sheepish smile on his oblong face. I asked him to come back on Monday to see if his card could be retrieved. Then at that point he had no choice than to open up to me,he had no dime on him. I went back into the office and got my purse and gave him some money. Ever since then we became good friends.
Another scenario was one an old uni mate told me, she said she came to the Redemption camp for Holy ghost service and then at some point she needed to go to the loo when she got there she met a queue,as she was joining she saw one of our hostel mates from Uni but she refused to say hello.When she couldn't hold it in anymore she humbled herself and went to meet the other lady who was a member of the sanitation team in charge of the rest room and that was how she was saved from disgrace. Imagine if she actually let forming have its way.She for don shit for body Hehehe
Many times we run into people that we used to know from back in the days and then we begin to avoid them, not like it would do us harm if we greet them ooooo its just a shakara issue. Why she sef no greet me? we often forget that some of these people can be of help to us.
Some of us know people from back in the days who have become influential and successful but instead of being humble and asking for help we just keep saying I used to know that dude or that chic,we are quick to assume that they won't help and it's not in all cases ooooo some successful people still have a good head on their neck, down to earth and still reckon with people from their roots. They understand that we meet people for a reason. That your bunk mate, class mate, old church member etc can be of help to you or you could be of help to them at some point in life. I'm not saying you have to keep close ties with everyone but at least be civil. Say hi to them and go your way, not that you act like you don't know who they are. You might have gone far ahead of them but that doesn't mean you should feel like they are not worth your
15 seconds "hello,long time.Good to see you".
Everyone is important if you are not too proud to accept that everyone is important. You feel me?
Next time I see you and you form say u no know me ehn...I comment my reserve. *winks*
So tell me have you ever been snubbed by someone you used to know? Share your gist biko...drop a comment.
Have a blissful week.
For quite a while, I have been seeing this guy in the area he would drive by and act like he doesn't know who I was, many times I'll try to get eye contact and say hello but he'll carry his nose up like he doesn't know me. Haaaa...issokay.
Na so one day na, he came to use the ATM in front of my office and his card got stuck, apparently he didn't have a dime on him and it was a Friday evening after banking hours. I came outside to see a customer of mine and bam! there he was pacing up and down. He was talking to the security men trying to inquire how he could get his card back, when they saw me step out they asked him to see me. Lo and behold, my guy humble by force. He started approaching me with that shameful grin on his face and me sef I acted like I didn't see him.Yelz of coz.
I turned to face the customer who was waiting to see me first and I made him wait for about 7-10 minutes before asking him what he wanted.
He started with the fake accent " hi, eerm actually my card got stuck in the atm, i was asked to see you. I laughed, " wo bi, don't you know this face?" I asked.
"Actually I do but I can't place it" he said with a sheepish smile on his oblong face. I asked him to come back on Monday to see if his card could be retrieved. Then at that point he had no choice than to open up to me,he had no dime on him. I went back into the office and got my purse and gave him some money. Ever since then we became good friends.
Another scenario was one an old uni mate told me, she said she came to the Redemption camp for Holy ghost service and then at some point she needed to go to the loo when she got there she met a queue,as she was joining she saw one of our hostel mates from Uni but she refused to say hello.When she couldn't hold it in anymore she humbled herself and went to meet the other lady who was a member of the sanitation team in charge of the rest room and that was how she was saved from disgrace. Imagine if she actually let forming have its way.
Many times we run into people that we used to know from back in the days and then we begin to avoid them, not like it would do us harm if we greet them ooooo its just a shakara issue. Why she sef no greet me? we often forget that some of these people can be of help to us.
Some of us know people from back in the days who have become influential and successful but instead of being humble and asking for help we just keep saying I used to know that dude or that chic,we are quick to assume that they won't help and it's not in all cases ooooo some successful people still have a good head on their neck, down to earth and still reckon with people from their roots. They understand that we meet people for a reason. That your bunk mate, class mate, old church member etc can be of help to you or you could be of help to them at some point in life. I'm not saying you have to keep close ties with everyone but at least be civil. Say hi to them and go your way, not that you act like you don't know who they are. You might have gone far ahead of them but that doesn't mean you should feel like they are not worth your
15 seconds "hello,long time.Good to see you".
Everyone is important if you are not too proud to accept that everyone is important. You feel me?
Next time I see you and you form say u no know me ehn...I comment my reserve. *winks*
So tell me have you ever been snubbed by someone you used to know? Share your gist biko...drop a comment.
Have a blissful week.
Monday, 23 May 2016
I'm Leaving this church!
Hi everyone, i hope you had a great weekend? So how was church yesterday? I'm sure you must have been wondering what this title is all about. Well I'm just about to break it down.
A few days ago, my mother in law and I were chatting about church and the responsibilities of being a leader. Then she started narrating to me how sometimes when little issues come up, some people would threaten to leave the church. Now these issues vary;it could be a quarrel with a fellow church worker, the head of unit or the pastor.
It made me remember sometime ago when I decided to leave my church when I heard stuff some people said about me that wasn't true and it hurt me to think that it was people from my very own church that were spreading these false stories. Anyway I learnt...trust me I did.
Now the thing is, there is no wisdom in leaving your place of worship because you are offended with someone or some people whether it's the pastor or a fellow member,it's not worth it. Okay look at this, if the same thing they did to you whatever it might be,was done to you at work would you resign? Would you leave the place where you get your daily bread coz of some frivolous quarrel? So then why leave the place where you get watered spiritually coz of someone?
Now I won't come here and preach, i know it can be hard. Some Church people can becold ass mean sometimes; they judge you even before you walk through the front door of the sanctuary, nowadays there are even cliques in church. You get to church and the seats in a whole row are taken with bags and purses for people who are still getting their makeup done at home. Sometimes they don't see you in church for weeks and nobody cares enough to give you a call...I know, I know trust me I do. However my point here is although church should be a haven for everyone sometimes it's not, we all have to accept that just like every other group or organisation the church is filled with people of diverse personalities and no matter how spirit filled we all claim to be sometimes our 'human nature' still shows its ugly side and we hurt each other but we must remember that we are not in church to see people or make friends, we are there to meet Jesus.
The twelveth chapter of Hebrews, the second verse says it all
I like the Message version of the bible the most coz it explains things in a more contemporary way it says
Did you catch that part where it said he could put up with anything? That I like! You see, that was my lesson back then and I finally returned to my church. You are putting up with all theBS not because you can't react but because your mind is so fixated on your goal that you ignore all the crap and focus on the reason why you are in church in the first place.
Church is just like every other place, sometimes when younger people are placed in leadership roles they lose their minds for a bit and think they can talk to anyone how they like,older people also are not left out sometimes they think they can force people under them to do anything they command forgetting that it's church and people should be admonished, encouraged and not forced. Some people are just plain rude and disrespectful,no regard for the pastor or even ministers. Some come in there to oppress others with their 50 shoulder pads carrying themselves like they own the church, they say things like "Awa la bere church yi,ibo le tin bo?" apologies to non-yoruba readers or they say "that's not how it is done here" when someone suggests something new and beneficial to others. We all have them in our churches.
So my point in all of these is, nothing anybody does to you should make you leave your place of worship except you are led to do so. It's God's house it does NOT belong to the Pastor or the so called foundation members who feel like they own the church and no one has a right to start something new. You are a child of God, ain't nobody powerful
enough to send you out of your father's house when he still wants you in there.Another tough love side to this is, okay fine you wanna leave the church huh? Just remember that God has replacements and if you feel nothing would go on without you, think again! The other day it was Prophet Elijah feeling like he was the only one left but God quickly brought it to his notice that he had 7,000 on reserve. Check that out in the first book of Kings, the thirteenth to the eighteenth verse.No one is indispensable with God. He always has a backup...so dont be all mad and let someone else take your place in your own father's house. Remember you are the one privileged to be able to offer service to him,y'heard?
I hope one day we all understand that we are the church and not the building. We ourselves are the body of Christ!
Share your experiences,has anyone got you so pissed in church that you decided to leave? Share your thoughts by dropping comments on today's post.
Have a fantastic week.
A few days ago, my mother in law and I were chatting about church and the responsibilities of being a leader. Then she started narrating to me how sometimes when little issues come up, some people would threaten to leave the church. Now these issues vary;it could be a quarrel with a fellow church worker, the head of unit or the pastor.
It made me remember sometime ago when I decided to leave my church when I heard stuff some people said about me that wasn't true and it hurt me to think that it was people from my very own church that were spreading these false stories. Anyway I learnt...trust me I did.
Now the thing is, there is no wisdom in leaving your place of worship because you are offended with someone or some people whether it's the pastor or a fellow member,it's not worth it. Okay look at this, if the same thing they did to you whatever it might be,was done to you at work would you resign? Would you leave the place where you get your daily bread coz of some frivolous quarrel? So then why leave the place where you get watered spiritually coz of someone?
Now I won't come here and preach, i know it can be hard. Some Church people can be
The twelveth chapter of Hebrews, the second verse says it all
" Looking unto Jesus , the author and finisher of our faith , who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross , despising the shame , and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God"(Nkjv)
I like the Message version of the bible the most coz it explains things in a more contemporary way it says
" Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we're in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed—that exhilarating finish in and with God—he could put up with anything along the way: Cross, shame, whatever. And now he's there, in the place of honor, right alongside God"
Did you catch that part where it said he could put up with anything? That I like! You see, that was my lesson back then and I finally returned to my church. You are putting up with all the
Church is just like every other place, sometimes when younger people are placed in leadership roles they lose their minds for a bit and think they can talk to anyone how they like,older people also are not left out sometimes they think they can force people under them to do anything they command forgetting that it's church and people should be admonished, encouraged and not forced. Some people are just plain rude and disrespectful,no regard for the pastor or even ministers. Some come in there to oppress others with their 50 shoulder pads carrying themselves like they own the church, they say things like "Awa la bere church yi,ibo le tin bo?" apologies to non-yoruba readers or they say "that's not how it is done here" when someone suggests something new and beneficial to others. We all have them in our churches.
So my point in all of these is, nothing anybody does to you should make you leave your place of worship except you are led to do so. It's God's house it does NOT belong to the Pastor or the so called foundation members who feel like they own the church and no one has a right to start something new. You are a child of God, ain't nobody powerful
enough to send you out of your father's house when he still wants you in there.Another tough love side to this is, okay fine you wanna leave the church huh? Just remember that God has replacements and if you feel nothing would go on without you, think again! The other day it was Prophet Elijah feeling like he was the only one left but God quickly brought it to his notice that he had 7,000 on reserve. Check that out in the first book of Kings, the thirteenth to the eighteenth verse.No one is indispensable with God. He always has a backup...so dont be all mad and let someone else take your place in your own father's house. Remember you are the one privileged to be able to offer service to him,y'heard?
I hope one day we all understand that we are the church and not the building. We ourselves are the body of Christ!
Share your experiences,has anyone got you so pissed in church that you decided to leave? Share your thoughts by dropping comments on today's post.
Have a fantastic week.
Thursday, 12 May 2016
How exactly do you feel?
Okay just look at this,we all graduated from school together,while some chose the safe path, some chose the path of uncertainties. They are called Entrepreneurs, i like to call them the risk takers. Salary earners have something to hope for at the end of the month...oga ta oga o ta...owo wan ma pe (oga sell,oga no sell their money no go reduce) however the entrepreneur only hopes that business would move,that he'll sell his wares, that he'll get contracts,that profit would be higher this month. It's only the brave that can do stuff like that,it takes courage to turn down juicy offers and follow your own path....at the end of the day they have mouths to feed just like the salary earners,they've got bills to pay.Mama and Papa might not really understand what being an entrepreneur is since they retired from the railway corporation and they see Tokunbo's mother enjoying the fruit of her labour after her son who was your class mate got a job with a multi-national company.
"So what is this entrepreneur thing anyway?",Mama asks everytime."Why don't you just get yourself a job? I still have some contacts at the railway corporation",Papa said. "Maybe they could be of help."
Despite all odds the brave ones refuse, they follow their dreams tenaciously,never minding the days when there's no dime in the pocket, forgetting the days when jobs are delivered yet customers refuse to pay up.
Y'all are the real MVP'S....I celebrate you!
Tag all your entrepreneur friends and if you are one celebrate yourself! If you have a minute, kindly comment and share with us how exactly you feel on the days when you're uncertain about your choice of being an entrepreneur? How do you encourage yourself?
Just one of my muses...till i write you again, Peace, love and hugs.
"So what is this entrepreneur thing anyway?",Mama asks everytime."Why don't you just get yourself a job? I still have some contacts at the railway corporation",Papa said. "Maybe they could be of help."
Despite all odds the brave ones refuse, they follow their dreams tenaciously,never minding the days when there's no dime in the pocket, forgetting the days when jobs are delivered yet customers refuse to pay up.
Y'all are the real MVP'S....I celebrate you!
Tag all your entrepreneur friends and if you are one celebrate yourself! If you have a minute, kindly comment and share with us how exactly you feel on the days when you're uncertain about your choice of being an entrepreneur? How do you encourage yourself?
Just one of my muses...till i write you again, Peace, love and hugs.
Monday, 9 May 2016
ROI? terms and conditions apply
Wasup everyone...thanks to God for a brand new week. So my thoughts this morning are on return on investment. Return on investment (ROI) is the benefit to an investor resulting from an investment of some resource. A high ROI means the investment gains compare favorably to investment cost. Enough said...
A while ago I was chatting with a male acquaintance , we were talking about the present state of the economy and how one has to be very careful before investing in anything. Due to the current situation the returns might not be commensurate to the cost of the investment . So on a lighter note he said he was also being very careful about his human investment . I laughed at the thought of human investment...my own idea of human investment is when an organisation invests in their employees through trainings, workshops and seminars so that in turn they can put their knowledge into good use for the profit of the organisation. However,what the guy was talking about was quite different, he brought his phone out and showed me a picture of a very beautiful young lady. He said she was his investment and that he has been sponsoring her education since 100 level. He was very happy that the lady is now in her final year but the thought of her going for Nysc scares him. He said he had heard so much about the famous educated rich fine boys who snatch away the sheep that uneducated men like him have been nurturing for years.I asked him if the lady knew his expectations from her after her youth service and he said she should.He said she knows that he wants an educated wife and that's why he has been caring for her over the years...Mr nice guy!
I made him understand that for every investment there are terms and conditions what they call treasury agreement and that it is very risky to assume that the person you are investing in knows what your expectations from him/her are at the end of the tenor.
It's important to let people know what your expectations are in a relationship, especially in a relationship where you are more of the giver, except if we want to deceive ourselves only God gives unconditional love. We all are in that friendship, relationship or marriage for some reasons and if after investing so much the other party fails to do their part, then we start hurting. So trust me before you start/ continue investing in anybody please be sure that they are willing to do their own part of the bargain.
That's the only way you can get return on investment for your time, care,all the shopping,the foreign trips, the expensive cuisine, the monthly recharge cards or BIS subscription,the educational support,the drop offs even during fuel price hike or scarcity the list goes on and on.
If there's no properly laid down agreement you CAN'T blame the babe if at the end of the 4 year university educational support or whatsoever you have been doing for her she tells you, 'you are just like a big brother to me'....hahaha that's when they brother zone you and one other guy would come and eat from where he did not sow....hehehe.
Talk about it now oh!
Those are my thoughts...have a phenomenal week.
Cheers!
L'queen.
A while ago I was chatting with a male acquaintance , we were talking about the present state of the economy and how one has to be very careful before investing in anything. Due to the current situation the returns might not be commensurate to the cost of the investment . So on a lighter note he said he was also being very careful about his human investment . I laughed at the thought of human investment...my own idea of human investment is when an organisation invests in their employees through trainings, workshops and seminars so that in turn they can put their knowledge into good use for the profit of the organisation. However,what the guy was talking about was quite different, he brought his phone out and showed me a picture of a very beautiful young lady. He said she was his investment and that he has been sponsoring her education since 100 level. He was very happy that the lady is now in her final year but the thought of her going for Nysc scares him. He said he had heard so much about the famous educated rich fine boys who snatch away the sheep that uneducated men like him have been nurturing for years.I asked him if the lady knew his expectations from her after her youth service and he said she should.He said she knows that he wants an educated wife and that's why he has been caring for her over the years...Mr nice guy!
I made him understand that for every investment there are terms and conditions what they call treasury agreement and that it is very risky to assume that the person you are investing in knows what your expectations from him/her are at the end of the tenor.
It's important to let people know what your expectations are in a relationship, especially in a relationship where you are more of the giver, except if we want to deceive ourselves only God gives unconditional love. We all are in that friendship, relationship or marriage for some reasons and if after investing so much the other party fails to do their part, then we start hurting. So trust me before you start/ continue investing in anybody please be sure that they are willing to do their own part of the bargain.
That's the only way you can get return on investment for your time, care,all the shopping,the foreign trips, the expensive cuisine, the monthly recharge cards or BIS subscription,the educational support,the drop offs even during fuel price hike or scarcity the list goes on and on.
If there's no properly laid down agreement you CAN'T blame the babe if at the end of the 4 year university educational support or whatsoever you have been doing for her she tells you, 'you are just like a big brother to me'....hahaha that's when they brother zone you and one other guy would come and eat from where he did not sow....hehehe.
Talk about it now oh!
Those are my thoughts...have a phenomenal week.
Cheers!
L'queen.
Monday, 2 May 2016
Is Marriage Really Worth It?
Well hello there y'all it's been so long, Mehn l missed y'all too.Thanks for the calls, messages,and emails...I'm here now. So what has eveybody been up to lately? For me it's been work, school, marriage, mummy duties and all of that grown up stuff but trust me I never stopped writing but nothing was ever finished enough to grace the page of the blog. Anyway, I'm here now so let's relate.
About a month ago some of my single friends and members of the young wives association were having our usual gist sessions and we discussed every thing from career, fashion, music, fellowship and finally we hit on ma
rriage I was teasing one of them who is a couple of years older than l am about when she would finally get married and without even letting me land one of the other single ladies present scowled at me and asked "is the marriage thing really worth it sef?" I was amazed because this is someone who was so into love and relationships back in our Uni days...what could have happened in the last 5 years to make her say that?
When she narrated different stories of unsettled homes less than 6 months in marriage and some other marriage issues I began to understand her viewpoint . Lately social media has taken us into the homes of some of our beloved celebrities and we all have started to realize that beyond the glitz and glamour of expensive weddings, vera wang gowns, mai atafo suits,instagram and facebook loved up posts,#mce and #wce real life issues come up in all marriages.
Trust me I'm not speaking as an expert or anything like that coz the truth is when it comes to marriage, no one is an expert.All I know is that marriage requires some kinda major level of commitment that if you know you ain't ready for all that just jejely and gbadunly stay single.
YOU CAN'T THINK FOR YOURSELF ALONE ANYMORE IN MARRIAGE !
Another thing I would say is if you aren't ready to stay through the good and the bad,happy and sad times,boxed up and broke ass times then just maybe marriage is not really your thing.
Look at our parents, many of them started from the bottom and now they have risen to greater heights because they were patient with each other and they never gave up but what we see today is women or even men who want someone with a million dollar bank account.
Not like that's a bad thing but let's be real we don't have so many of those out there,our economy is hard enough so everyone is a general manager of the little change they earn, so why not pick your own man or woman and build that millionnaira dollar empire together?
Like I said earlier I'm no expert in these marriage thing either but one of the major reasons I wrote this is to let people know that as much as it is good to build your home on Christ, he would not come down and work it out for you, I stand to be corrected. But I think its your job to work out your marriage with fear and trembling. Even the bible says faith without works is dead so asides putting faith and belief in God to make your marriage a great one it requires your effort and no it's not just some minimal effort but thoughtful , planned and consistent effort from both parties.
Let that CCT formula never ever be forgotten; Communication(not just wetin we go chop this night kinda talk but are you happy being married to me kinda talk on a regular so things can keep improving,share thoughts and ideas)
Care(not just i love you after each phone call but how far with your goals for the year that's some deep level of caring and commitment to your spouse,the little things count)
Trust( don't get all paranoid because that lady admired his dressing, quit the where were you 2 minutes ago questions trust your spouse and be trust worthy too).
All in all marriage is a full time job there is no part-time to it, so be ready to "work, work , work, work ,work, work" in Rihanna's voice.
Marriage can be beautiful,ask couples who have done for it 40 years and counting but it's not beans Mehn!
For y'all who are not married yet, please do a lot of getting to know each other and let God guide you.
Be sure you can stick to that person when the beauty and charm begin to fade and when the money goes honey would you be ready to stay?
Think about it!
Those are my thoughts, so if you ask me i think Marriage is worth it.
Marriage is honourable in all!
A/N: What are your thoughts?
do you agree to the fact that marriage is worth it? Don't just read, please share your views
Till i write you again...Toodles.
About a month ago some of my single friends and members of the young wives association were having our usual gist sessions and we discussed every thing from career, fashion, music, fellowship and finally we hit on ma
rriage I was teasing one of them who is a couple of years older than l am about when she would finally get married and without even letting me land one of the other single ladies present scowled at me and asked "is the marriage thing really worth it sef?" I was amazed because this is someone who was so into love and relationships back in our Uni days...what could have happened in the last 5 years to make her say that?When she narrated different stories of unsettled homes less than 6 months in marriage and some other marriage issues I began to understand her viewpoint . Lately social media has taken us into the homes of some of our beloved celebrities and we all have started to realize that beyond the glitz and glamour of expensive weddings, vera wang gowns, mai atafo suits,instagram and facebook loved up posts,#mce and #wce real life issues come up in all marriages.
Trust me I'm not speaking as an expert or anything like that coz the truth is when it comes to marriage, no one is an expert.All I know is that marriage requires some kinda major level of commitment that if you know you ain't ready for all that just jejely and gbadunly stay single.
YOU CAN'T THINK FOR YOURSELF ALONE ANYMORE IN MARRIAGE !
Another thing I would say is if you aren't ready to stay through the good and the bad,happy and sad times,boxed up and broke ass times then just maybe marriage is not really your thing.
Look at our parents, many of them started from the bottom and now they have risen to greater heights because they were patient with each other and they never gave up but what we see today is women or even men who want someone with a million dollar bank account.
Not like that's a bad thing but let's be real we don't have so many of those out there,our economy is hard enough so everyone is a general manager of the little change they earn, so why not pick your own man or woman and build that million
Like I said earlier I'm no expert in these marriage thing either but one of the major reasons I wrote this is to let people know that as much as it is good to build your home on Christ, he would not come down and work it out for you, I stand to be corrected. But I think its your job to work out your marriage with fear and trembling. Even the bible says faith without works is dead so asides putting faith and belief in God to make your marriage a great one it requires your effort and no it's not just some minimal effort but thoughtful , planned and consistent effort from both parties.
Let that CCT formula never ever be forgotten; Communication(not just wetin we go chop this night kinda talk but are you happy being married to me kinda talk on a regular so things can keep improving,share thoughts and ideas)
Care(not just i love you after each phone call but how far with your goals for the year that's some deep level of caring and commitment to your spouse,the little things count)
Trust( don't get all paranoid because that lady admired his dressing, quit the where were you 2 minutes ago questions trust your spouse and be trust worthy too).
All in all marriage is a full time job there is no part-time to it, so be ready to "work, work , work, work ,work, work" in Rihanna's voice.
Marriage can be beautiful,ask couples who have done for it 40 years and counting but it's not beans Mehn!
For y'all who are not married yet, please do a lot of getting to know each other and let God guide you.
Be sure you can stick to that person when the beauty and charm begin to fade and when the money goes honey would you be ready to stay?
Think about it!
Those are my thoughts, so if you ask me i think Marriage is worth it.
Marriage is honourable in all!
A/N: What are your thoughts?
do you agree to the fact that marriage is worth it? Don't just read, please share your views
Till i write you again...Toodles.
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